I have this theory about relationships. Marriages in particular, because I'm talking about lifetime commitments. I am not married, and my longest relationship was just over a year. So maybe I've got it all wrong. But just maybe I've got this one little piece figured out.
The person you've been married to for 15 years is not going to be the same person you married. And you're not going to be the same person who married them. Our experiences shape us and over time, we evolve. Values may change and priorities shift. Perspectives are influenced and our outlook on life can be turned on its head. Whether we switch jobs every couple years or stay with one company for half our lives, our careers affect who we become. Family dynamics, financial situations, and even the little stuff, like dealing with idiot drivers or having that person in front of us in the drive thru pay for our food, all combine to make us who we are. And we cannot stay the same. We don't have a choice. Life comes at us and we roll with it. So the trick to making a marriage last, is not to stay the same people you were, we've established that that's impossible. I believe instead, that it is a conscious effort to grow together, rather than grow apart. Because grow, we will. But every day, we are confronted with choices. And the decisions that we make, to take a step closer or a step away, are essential to a lifetime friendship with our spouses.
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Hello Julie, so good to know you through your profile on the blogger. I am glad to stop by your blog and know your thoughts that are posted on your blog with the title "Because Grow, we will" Very thoughtful writing which came from your own experience. Well I am in the Pastoral ministry for last 33 yrs in the great city of Mumbai, India a city with great contrast where richest of rich and the poorest of poor live. We reach out to the poorest of poor with the love of Christ to bring healing to the broken hearted and to give new hope, future, life and purpose. We also encourage young as well as adult from the West to come on a short term missions trip to work with us. We would love to have you along with your friends come on a short term missions trip to work with us. My email id is:dhwankhede(at)gmail(dot)com and my name is Diwakar Wankhede
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